This is an article I had hoped that I'd never have to write. And hesitate to even do it.
Our town experienced a loss that we wish we'd never have had.
As a mom of 6 that has gone through the teenage years so many times, it's not easy to watch. It was not easy when I was a teenager either.
There were many sleepless nights that as a mom that were filled with worry and prayers. It doesn't get easier even though all of my kids are now over the age of 18. I still pray and worry about them, it's in the mom job description.
I do want to speak to all of my dear teenage readers that are reeling right now. I know many of you are hurting, and asking the "Whys" and "What ifs" and that's okay to do that. That's a normal response to ask those questions. Sometimes you will never get an answer to those questions.
Right now you might be in the lowest spot that you can ever remember being, what you feel is grief.
Grief is a tricky thing. In grief, there is no one simple way to handle it. The most common form is, of course, crying. Everyone understands that when they see tears something is wrong. Tears are a good thing.
Sometimes you experience pain so deep that all you can do is go somewhere and scream and sob, that too is alright, it's also part of healing. Sometimes there is a pain so deep that words just can't express it.
If you are like me, you need to find someone you trust that you can talk to. Friends like this are priceless. A true friend will listen. Even at my age, I've always wanted to talk to someone older and wiser than I am. Life experience is a good thing to look for. If you have an adult in your life that you can talk to, go to them, they can handle your grief. If you have a teacher you trust, talk to them. If you have a pastor or youth leader, they are always good to talk to. But talk. Sometimes it might be awkward to talk to your mom and dad, but trust me, they want to know if you're hurting.
Journaling is also good. Sometimes the hurt you feel needs to be let out, and you might have trouble talking to anyone about it, and you just need to let it out. writing is also a good way to get the hurt out, there's something about writing that relieves the pressure of some of those feelings.
The high school is offering a place for you today, in the Media Resource Center. There will be pastors available to talk to, there are teachers there willing to listen as well. Don't EVER feel like you are bothering someone, you aren't.
Be sensitive to your friends around you too. If you see someone struggling talk to them as well. It's okay to make new friends at this time, as well. Some of my dearest friends were made at the lowest times of life.
Perhaps you are in a good place right now, but see someone who is really struggling, you have got to walk alongside those kids in your life, take their arm and stay with them. Listen to them. Ask them how they are doing, it's okay to be nosey. Bug them until they talk to you, it's alright.
We're on a mission to bring everyone through this together.
There are several resources that are in the community where you can go.
Every Friday night at the Revolution Building the Blessed Hope Community Church offers a safe place for you to hang out from 8-11 p.m. There are really good folks there that would love to listen if you need an ear, or if you prefer to just have some fun and be distracted, give it a try.
There are several agencies and resources in the area that are there to help you as well and I've listed them below with their contact information:
Abbe Center for Community Health 472-5226
Benton County Social Services 472-4743
Catholic Charities 364-7121
Crisis Textline text 741741
Families Inc 472-4081
Foundation 2 Mobile Crisis 247-0030
Foundation 2 Success 1-800-247-0030
Horizon's, A family Service ALlianxe 398-3943
Iowa Help Line 1-855-800-1239
Chat IowaHelpLine.org text 1-855-800-1239
Riverview Center inc. 319-540-0080
Seeds of Hope 888-746-4673
Suicide Hotline 800-SUICIDE or 1-800-784-2433
Pathways Behavioral Services 235-6571
Vinton Counseling Services 472-4499
Seasons of Life Family Therapy 774-3392
Therapeutic Innovations, PLLC 540-5643
Keys to Living 319-377-2161 https://www.keystoliving.org/
True Reflections Christian Counseling 319-329-5757
https://www.truereflectionschristiancounseling.com/home.html
Celebrate Recovery Revolution Building Wednesday nights @ 6:00
Books
Mindful of the Light - Practical Help and Spiritual Hope for Mental Health by Stephen Critchlow
Minding the Heart - The Way of Spiritual Transformation by Robert Saucy
Boundaries - When to Say Yes and How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Inside Out by Dr. Larry Crabb
Shattered Dreams - God's Unexpected Path to Joy by Dr. Larry Crabb
The Pressure's Off - Breaking Free from Rules and Performance by Dr. Larry Crabb
RightNow Series
Mental Health with Dr. Jeff Baker
Compass and Light - A Series on Mental Health
We're all in this together. Look out for your neighbors and friends. And though we may not know all of your names, know this, this community is pulling for you, we're praying for you and we love each of you. It will get better.
If you find that you need help, don't hesitate to ask. Call one of these numbers above. If you see someone that's struggling, step up, help them. If you need to tell an adult that you see someone in need of help, do it.
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